Random Monday – Narcissism Edition

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Last week, the Knitters had a cookie swap. It was fun. Knowing people in real life is nice. And all the knitters are fascinating people.

One of the ladies cornered some of us in the kitchen and gave a very detailed, almost cringe-inducing review of 50 Shades of Gray. Conclusion? She didn’t care for it. But she read the next two, just to be sure.

AND THEN. At the end, I got all drunk on sugar and told another person about this blog, which makes, like, THREE whole people in real life who know about it. (well, four, but one of them isn’t talking to me anymore for reasons I do not understand. maybe for things I’ve said here. does she still count? I don’t know).

I am slightly nervous about telling because…well, all the reasons seem eye-rollingly narcissistic and paranoid, and come ON, Deb, it’s just silly daily navel gazing, what’s so earth-shattering about that? But I don’t edit myself here (well, except for the cursing. blog cursing is low-brow, and I am v. sophisticated, as we all are aware), and I don’t want to start.

And now you guys are all spraining your eyeballs and thinking, “for Pete’s sake, what is the big deal? it’s not like your endlessly hysterical occasionally amusing stories about shopping for little girls’ underpants are State Secrets, GET OVER YOURSELF.” Which is also, in fact, what I am telling myself. But then my OTHER self says, “hey. don’t be mean. just because it’s silly, doesn’t mean you can’t be protective and private about it.”

Announcing you have a blog can smack of narcissism, too, don’t you think? It’s a quandary. Tell, and know people are thinking, “and WHY would I give a crap about your mundane and poorly punctuated life story?” or DON’T tell, and know people would think, “you aren’t that special, you ego-maniac. Your time would be better spent learning how to use a comma.”

I think on some level it’s easier to write for an anonymous audience, knowing you come here eagerly willingly because you adore me like me find me hilarious insightful tolerable.

Actually, another reason for being shy is that one of my friends can be rather…combative and it can be exhausting. I don’t want to see her and be immediately leapt upon.

For example, here’s an actual conversation from this summer

Me: I’m thinking of looking into gymnastics for Little.
Her: Gymnastics is child abuse.

Plus also now my poor real-life friends have to hear all my stories twice, which seems AWESOME unfair.

Do you guys tell people in your real life about your blogs? Did you injure yourselves rolling your collective eyes at me? How would you explain to someone who told you THREE YEARS ago that you should start a blog that you did and just sort of…didn’t tell them?

6 Responses to “Random Monday – Narcissism Edition”

  1. Jessica Says:

    I wasn’t very forth-coming about my blog when I had one. But I never really had any traffic or even followers. But I think it’s ok to want to keep it private and away from everyone you know.

    And don’t feel bad to want to avoid a combative friendship. It doesn’t benefit you to be in one!
    Jessica´s last blog post ..Easter Was Last Week, Right?

  2. Kristy Says:

    I do tell people about my blog (or often my husband does…he loves to brag about it) and the funny/annoying thing is that people just don’t seem to care. My blog is a little different in that it’s a family blog, written to share life with all our distant friends and relatives. And none of our siblings even read it. At last our parents do. My real-life BFF used to but gave it up a few years ago because she’s “too busy.”

    In your case, yes, I would be telling everybody, because it’s written to a broader audience and you are so funny that I think people would be entertained. Those that don’t read it are missing out.

  3. Eddie - The Usual Mayhem Says:

    I completely understand. I started my blog in 2008 and didn’t tell my family I had a blog (except for my sister in law because I throw her and her kids into my pictures) until this year. And then only grudgingly.

    Your blog is side-splittingly funny and you should tell everyone. If they get snotty you can just write about them and solve that problem!
    Eddie – The Usual Mayhem´s last blog post ..Outdoor Play Party Dec 6, 2103 – You “Otter” See This!

  4. Cassie @ 3Dinosaurs.com Says:

    I totally understand. the people that have found out just roll their eyes and ask me when I’ll be getting a job. My sister mocked me for months after she found out and said that I was wasting my life with it.

    I don’t tell people I see in real life that I’m doing it. Recently I helped with a project that also was a part of my blogging and somewhat regret it now. I will think about it more before telling others.
    Cassie @ 3Dinosaurs.com´s last blog post ..Christmas Cookie Cutter Painting

  5. Meghan Says:

    I don’t tell anyone about my blog because I don’t want to censor myself. I’ve never written anything really private, but I feel like I want the option to write private things. I mean, once you put yourself out there, you can’t take it back, so I think it’s better to be overly cautious rather than regret exposing yourself.
    Meghan´s last blog post ..Multitasking

  6. Ingi (@ingidefygravity) Says:

    I didn’t used to – if people wanted to read about my homeschooling, they could find me. But people starting saying “oh YOU’RE Defying Gravity!!!” and I realised anonymity is ridiculous. I would rather be anonymous – I prefer writing thinking I will never meet any of my readers…but it doesn’t work like that.

    One day, I’m gonna come visit you – and that will make 5 people who know about your blog 😉
    Ingi (@ingidefygravity)´s last blog post ..Compulsory New Year Navel-Gazing Post